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thenewgreen  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Advertisers want you to hate being single. Don’t buy in.

I was just saying to someone that I think now would be the golden age for being single. So long as you're mildly successful and attractive it would be fun, at least I would think so. The hardest part was always meeting people but with the advent of online dating this is alleviated.

Maybe I'm naive, but you youngsters don't know how hard it used to be. It involved making a move...IN PERSON. Hard to believe, I know.

You could be single and have romantic flings.

EDIT: To be clear, being young and ANYTHING sort of sucks. Being my age and being single would be fucking easy though. Age = confidence, money and ability. Youth has none of those things.





user-inactivated  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I was just saying to someone that I think now would be the golden age for being single. So long as you're mildly successful and attractive it would be fun, at least I would think so.

Nobody cares that you are single anymore. From what my dad has told me, if you were single in the 70's people thought there was something wrong with you, or you were gay. Now, the majority of US households are singles so really there is no longer a social stigma. With jobs demanding mobility for younger people, being tied down in a relationship can even be detrimental to your earning potential as growing with a company for most of us is not going to happen anymore.

I've been looking into the business of advertising more lately just on a whim, and the whole world is collapsing in slow motion under the feet of the old guard. With a number as high as 85% of men and boys under 25 not watching traditional TV, ad-blocking on the Internet, fewer people reading magazines, the over saturation of "real life" ads causing people to tune it out like white noise, and the "long tail" effects, ad people are scrambling to catch up to the eyeballs. It is sort of amusing to watch people who are supposed to be in tune with the public flail around trying to figure out the new world we live in.

kleinbl00  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's a little less amusing from the inside. The jobs that are left are crappier, the people who are left are meaner and the projects that are left are lamer.

The entertainment industry is going from a career to a stopgap - that thing you did for the ten years between graduation and moving back to Dayton. For those of us who do it for a living it's kinda chilling.

I mean, I know the guys who mix the Grammies. I know the guys who mix the Emmys. I have a friend with four parking spots on the Radford lot just from all the shows she's on. And I know that on the last gig I worked, only one dude on the sound team was under 35, all the PAs were being treated like shit and the project was deliberately designed to burn through people for money.

user-inactivated  ·  2956 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    And I know that on the last gig I worked, only one dude on the sound team was under 35

The people under 35 wanting to do what you do are all on Youtube where they don't have horror stories of casting couches and movies like Swimming With sharks etc to scare you back to an 8-5 job.

kleinbl00  ·  2956 days ago  ·  link  ·  

They're also making ten cents on the dollar and are going to quit soon.

oyster  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Online dating isn't all it's cracked up to be really. When you meet someone in person you have less time to talk yourself out of it but when you meet someone online you have plenty of time. This has at least been my experience but I'm also pretty good at talking to strangers unless I've had time to think about how they'll murder me. Others may feel differently.

user-inactivated  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Online dating is where hope, romance and dignity go to die.

oyster  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It's true, I'm sure some people have had success with it but I know far more people who haven't. I do have sympathy for people who aren't able to strike up conversations in person though as I know for some it's rough. I imagine online dating must seem like a great idea at first for someone like that but it's almost like finding a needle in a haystack.

OftenBen  ·  2957 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Greener grass and all such comments.