a thoughtful web.
Good ideas and conversation. No ads, no tracking.   Login or Take a Tour!
comment by bioemerl
bioemerl  ·  3019 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: If you see kleinb00 please share this with them

My issue is not that people are assholes, it is in muting people, silencing people, because they are assholes.

People don't change by being shut out, they changed by being corrected and yelled at. In the search for a duration system that doesn't make people feel bad, hubski instead made one that isolates and encourages a person to make alt accounts.





cgod  ·  3019 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Why should someone else feel any obligation to help someone they don't want to talk to get over their issues. There is a reason people pay good money for counseling, because this shit is tiresome.

Making an alt because someone muted you is just pathetic. Sometimes a person won't be liked, sometimes it won't be fair, sometimes it won't be their fault, sometimes it will all be a big misunderstanding. For fucks sake, a person has to move on with their life and get over these kinds of not even bumps in the road.

bioemerl  ·  3019 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Why should someone else feel any obligation to help someone they don't want to talk to get over their issues.

Because it's the right thing to do? Because it's best to try and act in a way that results in the best possible community and society?

    Making an alt because someone muted you is just pathetic.

And?

cgod  ·  3018 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Is this how you live your life? Fixing all the people who are broken? Do you go around showing everyone who is wrong what is right, making all the cruel people gentle, making all the poor sufficiently comfortable, healing the sick?

Everyone well balanced sane person has to draw a line between helping others and maintain their own sanity, health, happiness and welfare. It's really not for you to impose a line in which someone like kleine00 (or anyone else for that matter) has to play ego therapist for someone else.

I hope you have at least PMed qiy and started to help him work through this trauma, by your stated creed it's the least you could do.

user-inactivated  ·  3018 days ago  ·  link  ·  

cgod  ·  3018 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks for some context.

It's not that hard to lose track of someone's past if you didn't follow them or feel compelled to mute them. They are just another face in the crowd. I wouldn't have taken the bait if I had realized I was talking to the guy who wants to start fights and then be outraged when he gets muted or whenever muting gets mentioned.

Personally I'd say there is a great lesson to be learned in an argument where you get muted (and learning lessons from arguments seems to be what this fellas all about). It could be observing what it was that caused such an outrageous affront like getting muted to happen and find a way to still learn all those great lessons without it happening next time. I think the real lesson is why such a small thing as getting muted by a guy you hardly even know gets you so upset. Personally I have a hard time even giving a shit about getting muted but to each his own.