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galen  ·  3060 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: December 2, 2015

galen's love life since November 2015: a timeline.

Nov 10 2015: Matched with an attractive lady on Tinder who seems pretty cool. Messaged.

Nov 11: Hm, no message back.

Nov 14: Hrm, still no reply.

Nov 15: I give up.

Nov 29: Fuckit, send another message.

Nov 29, later: She replies! She meant to reply earlier but forgot! Conversation ensues, and lasts 3 hours. Woo!

Nov 30: We exchange numbers. Further conversation, but intermittent: she's out of country and cell service is scarce.

Dec 1: She's back stateside! We text for 5 hours.

Dec 2, afternoon: We text even more. And yeah, some "<3" ing happens.

Dec 2, early evening: On her Tumblr, I stumble upon a post about being asexual. Whaaaaaat

Dec 2, late evening: Lots of researching asexuality, thinking. Talk to a few friends. Eventually reach the conclusion that not only am I okay with a relationship that's romantic but nonsexual, but I actually wasn't interested in a sexual relationship with her in the first place. I just sort of felt like I should have been.

Dec 3, midnight: I call her. (Sidenote: ugh I love her voice.) We talk about nothing for a little, and I bring up the asexuality thing. Everything goes smoothly; she's glad that I brought it up and am ok with it. Eventually we both have to sleep.

Dec 3, afternoon: I make a dumb joke and she gets pretend annoyed. I don't realize she was joking too and get a little freaked out.

Dec 3, evening: I bring up this weird tension I'm feeling; she explains that she was also joking. We talk on the phone, and just hearing her voice, everything feels better.

She is also 16, but a high school senior. She is an incredible musician and speaks French. She wants to be a professor someday maybe. She uses words like "radtastic" and "swagnanimous." And she is beautiful.

She is from VT and goes to boarding school near Albany (2ish hours from Colgate), and isn't planning on going to school anywhere that's closer than that. So that pretty well sucks.

But we can worry about whether doing long distance for 3-4 years or whatever is worth it later-- if that's ever even an issue. For now I just really like her.

So that's what's up :)

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