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Meriadoc  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 7, 2015

My mother's cancer is back. Apparently it's worse than before. I don't know how that happens with as many follow up checks she had.

She's having a surgery Monday, exploratory I think, but I have an inkling it's more than that and she's not telling me. I've known her long enough to know that tone of urgency in her voice. So I have to fly out immediately to CA for her immediately. I have no idea how I'm going to do that or afford it, especially with not knowing how long I will be there. Making 12k a year is fucking brutal because it doesn't leave room for emergencies. And more than that I hate even having to think about it. That I'm going to go home to help my mother through the hardest thing in her life and I have to fucking think about money.





mk  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sorry to hear about that, Meriadoc. Safe travels, and best of luck with what comes. Check your PMs.

They don't pay you enough.

Meriadoc  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks again.

The good news is that it looks like things are about to shift of the work front. Personnel shifting so they're going to have to fill the position that was opened for me. So hopefully I'll have news on that soon and be making a living wage.

lil  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Perhaps hubski donate should include donations to the hubski discretionary fund for situations like this.

Meanwhile, I hope for the best outcome for you and your mom.

War  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm really sorry to hear all that dude. I sincerely hope things work out for your mother.

cgod  ·  3623 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've gone through a few family cancer deaths. Getting a person through their end, if that is what you are about to do, are some of the noblest, most laudable services you can perform.

Be strong and compassionate, give honor to your mom.

It's a very challenging time and I hope it goes as well as it can.

Hopefully I've said this way to early in your mom's case.

Meriadoc  ·  3623 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thankfully, you're way too early with this. I believe we're at a point where the worst case would be an extreme surgery, but nothing too bad. We'll know after the exploratory on Monday, but I expect it to be a surgery, radiation, and then they'll consider from there.

user-inactivated  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh fuck it. Good luck.

ArtemusBlank  ·  3624 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sorry to hear this as well. I wish you and your family the best.