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user-inactivated  ·  3146 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How do I deal with my parents' possessive control of me?

She was pretty controlling, punished me for her getting in trouble in high school. I was mouthy, and I also thought I was smarter than her. I was able to run away, and show someone after she beat me up. If she bothered me, a restraining order means she automatically gets arrested.

I was showing early signs of my illness, so it wasn't just me being an unreasonable jerk. I was medically less than reasonable at the time. Right now she helped get me a scholarship for people who are too disabled to do unskilled labor, but are too smart to get disability.

WWOOFing is really fun, I wouldn't recommend college to anyone who thought of it as less than a privilege.

It would probably be cheaper for your parents to pay for the cost of getting from farm to farm, than to pay for rent. You would still have to maintain a relationship with them, and WWOOFing would not help advance your other life goals.

You might just take the pretty decent hand you have been dealt, and go to school. You will really love living alone. If you don't want them to pay your rent, get a job, and tell them "no thanks". Don't burn your bridges, and try to make yourself homeless out of idealism. If you feel bad, go volunteer.

Take the summers off and go WWOOFing, because you really can't beat anything about the lifestyle. The food is always amazing, the other people are at the very least interesting. The work is literally the funnest activity, I can imagine, but I am weird.





user-inactivated  ·  3146 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    You might just take the pretty decent hand you have been dealt, and go to school. You will really love living alone. If you don't want them to pay your rent, get a job, and tell them "no thanks". Don't burn your bridges, and try to make yourself homeless out of idealism.

I think you're right. Doing crazy shit won't do me any good right now, I would imagine. My parents won't understand WWOOFing and anything of that sort - it's not just foreign but alien to them - but they understand higher education; in their own way, but still.

    I wouldn't recommend college to anyone who thought of it as less than a privilege.

That, too, you got right, and I better keep it in mind while I'm studying. It's a great opportunity to learn deep and interesting stuff. Gotta remember that.