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_refugee_  ·  1830 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ignorance is a mold that looks like a fire.

I've updated a little but don't feel like I swung my leg too far when hit by the hammer. ;)

My mom can't communicate either. Maybe it's a mom thing.

Salty, acerbic - I was stretching the metaphor.

I am sure there is a difference between boldly expressing one's opinion and doing so acerbic-ly. I would like to think that sometimes I manage to stay in the first.

I agree it is preferable even when disagreeing not to be mean, not to lose some of the strength of your point by slinging mud and throwing fits. But I don't think it's necessary to outright "be nice."





ThatFanficGuy  ·  1830 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    but don't feel like I swung my leg too far when hit by the hammer. ;)

Could you elaborate on that? It's the first time I see such a sentence.

    My mom can't communicate either.

It's more than lack of communication, you see. Have you ever heard of what's it like to live with a narcissist?

    Salty, acerbic - I was stretching the metaphor.

I understand now. Does it mean that you agree with me on the current matter of names and words?

    But I don't think it's necessary to outright "be nice."

A skilled orator can use being nice - or, rather, non-confrontational - to the best of their advantage. People shield up when they hear something that sounds like an assault on their integrity; as such, appearing nice - that is, not disturbing others' worldview, but rather shifting it inch by inch through careful questions and statements - might be a weapon more powerful than an witty rant, in some situations.

Not that you have to be nice to people at all times if your point is to please them or don't let them frown from you expressing yourself. I mean to say that it's not all bad.