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randomuser  ·  3190 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why people are terrible

I guess in weird I'm the sense that I feel the same pressures attacking someone physically as digitally. I recognize that the things I say are the same and will have the same impact/worse impact/or just wrong impact on the same situation. I wish there was a way to add stress to the submit buttons on heavy comments.





aidrocsid  ·  3190 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well sure, it's still some form of communication so you're going to feel some degree of social pressure, but it's not the same. You don't see their face redden or their eyebrows furrow. You don't hear their voice become louder or start to waver or see them start to gesticulate. Even simple little things in tone of voice that make the meaning of a sentence clear are lacking.

We still get some of our whole communication social pressure setup, but it's way dressed down. The really troublesome thing is, we don't even think about it. We just carry on as normal because that's how we're trained socially.

randomuser  ·  3190 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Lol. What I was saying was that I, personally, am affected/invested/care the same about both situations. As in, I probably react less about physical interaction than I should, and care more about the digital effect than is standard.

aidrocsid  ·  3190 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sure, but even then you have less information. For instance, right now you have no idea if I'm agitated, relaxed, amused, confused, bored, or taking a shit.

I could be pounding away at my keyboard or typing slowly while half asleep.

randomuser  ·  3190 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's definitely true, but having less information doesn't change my tact, it doesn't make me feel better or worse about the way I treat people/situations. Like, I don't disassociate real people from their online counterparts.