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user-inactivated  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 15, 2015

Your bio says you have an internet crush on him.





_refugee_  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

These two statements are not mutually exclusive. Do you consider "internet crush" and "blind worship" synonyms? You are not the first person who has observed, and attempted to leverage, that flippant remark as if it denotes a deep, significant, connection - for some reason some small subset of people sees that "I have an internet crush on kleinbl00" and assumes not only that I am a slave to him in my devotion, but that I must be enlightened, freed from my crush. And that it is THEIR duty to disillusion me!

If you cannot disagree with someone you have a crush on you are in for a very hard time in life, relationships, and dating. If you cannot perceive flaws in those who you admire and enjoy, then you are either not very perceptive or willingly blind yourself to negatives. Neither of those traits describes me.

You know what having an internet crush on kleinbl00 means? It means that when we disagree (and we do disagree), I make a conscious decision as to whether I want to engage or not. It means I sit and consider, "Is this discussion worth it?" and sometimes I think, "Nope." It means that sometimes, when we disagree, I sit back, consider everything about myself klein doesn't know, ponder how he must have an equal or greater share of such items in his invetory, and I think, "He thinks he is right, I think I am right, it is not harming either of us to think that, and to prove would be exhausting. Let us both instead be happy, and continue to enjoy talking to each other."

Thank god I'm the only one claiming to have an internet crush in this discussion tho' cuz damn I don't want to know what the other side of it would or wouldn't look like.

If anything, I strive to simply accept the internet user for who and what he is.

It is impossible for two strong personalities not to clash heads sometimes.

If my bio said I was a pistol-totling pussy-whipping rattlesnake-eating half-Mexican half-Asian cowboy learning the tricks of the rope trade to train in the rodeo, would that somehow be relevant to this discussion of whether I "only agree with [a person] when I agree with them"? No. Would you believe it? Does it matter? Nope.

A person who cannot see, acknowledge, even appreciate the vast gulfs that exist between us all - the ones that get deeper and bigger and vastier as we get more emotionally close - a person who cannot accept fundamental differences, is a person who doesn't know what affection is. That is a person who thinks love is weak, simple-minded, dependent on another to be led, wholly reliant on its object in order to take shape.

I do not worship. I do not grovel. I do not, as they say, put the pussy on a pedestal.

I accept humanity.

tl,dr: i's a dik

arguewithatree  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

i'm singing britney spears after reading this so you can tell how my friday is going

_refugee_  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

yawn i'm tired and boy all yo uneed to do to get under my skin is imply i'm not independent and then tangents tangents tangents.

I was really hoping this was going to be "Not quite a girl, not yet a woman."

arguewithatree  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

user-inactivated  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Wow. It was a tiny joke. I don't care if you agree with kleinbl00 on issues or not. Like not even a little bit. And this isn't about you 'accepting users' or any larger philosophical comment. It was a little joke. It's not my duty to disillusion you. I don't even know you. But as this is the first time I can remember talking to you, I hope this isn't you putting your best foot forward to a stranger.

_refugee_  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I sure as shit ain't putting my best foot forward with you because we have interacted and I wasn't that impressed.

user-inactivated  ·  3198 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope I can change your mind one day. Though I looked around at our comment history and there aren't many interactions worth mentioning, not because they were good or bad, but because they weren't much of anything memorable. I don't know what I said that got you so riled up, but if you ever want to fix it and move on I'm happy to be a part of that.