I'm an INTJ, sort of to the extreme (85%+ on everything). My girlfriend calls me a robot, so that sucks, but I'm working on that. Hopefully lil will message me back with some information on that end. Unfortunately, since everyone else isn't an INTJ, discussions tend to devolve into emotional arguments instead of intellectual debates. It's very tough to empathize with others. I don't understand many of the feelings that other people display, but again, working on it!
Ah, cool ~ I'm I 67% N 62% T 38% J 11% on last check Yeah, I definitely have things to work on - though I don't know if it's only personality type or other things.. I have massive avoidance of conflict, unhealthy boundaries, hiding emotions, emotionally unavailable, @__@,, But my biggest problem is that I wasn't aware of everything until these last few months where I ran into descriptions of myself online and realised.. I'm so oblivious to the inside of my mind @__@,, but now I can focus on craziness and adjust (maybe)~
I avoid conflict as well. Not sure what you mean by unhealthy boundaries. Definitely suppress my emotions, though it's more automatic than a conscious effort. I find long drives at night to be very helpful in sorting out things in my mind. I'm focused on a task that is relatively mundane, which uses enough brainpower to allow me to cut through the "noise" long enough to get things straightened out. I'd suggest finding something similar and see if it helps you. The user lil has a blog with some helpful information regarding social interaction and various other topics. I've found it very informative, though I'm unable to truly understand and implement the concepts for myself. It's good to know how other people work, though.
Yeah everything is unconcious for me too.. like an instinct reflex knee-jerk reaction - unhealthy boundaries: I may quickly gravitate towards someone romantically/ too close and intense straight away - then second thing - ignoring their boundaries, and sacrificing mine/myself to serve others against their will, Then I may resent the relationship because I gave up control, not being able to say no to requests - later feel like I want out / not be too close emotionally, avoiding conflict - resenting the service while pretending to be happy and ok, then throwing everything away ... ..a bit crazy/ messed up.... Drives have been good - I'm in a bad habit of listening to music..