Recently I've been feeling a little withdrawn from hubski. There's SO much new content. So many new users. So much dust settling. And today I've been reading current and old posts about muting and hushing and filtering and it reminded me that I've been muted before... I only know of two times, but it could be a lot more. The first time I knew I was muted, I reached out to the muter, we discussed the matter, and I'm not muted anymore. Sure, I had to eat some humble pie, but also, when the muter realized I wasn't really TRYING to be a dick (but I admit that I sounded remarkably like one) we worked it out. The second time I was muted - I reached out on a few occasions, and never got unmuted. It's a huge bummer to be muted when the user shares great content - but you move on. Looking at some of the other posts in the pub today... I find myself wondering "am I one of ButterflyEffect's 149 filters? or am I hushed? At this point, I know cgod would tell me to move on and it doesn't matter. I am a little torn by it though. I don't lose a lot of sleep over some one not liking my comments... but if I'm getting muted... am I unknowingly walking around like an asshat and I don't realize it? I don't live my life by other peoples' opinions of me. But I don't want to be an asshat.
No. But you don't have the advantage that you do offline. You are one of the more intellectually generous and nonjudgmental people I've known. It's hard to make those qualities come through with text all the time but I'd be surprised if anyone with an open mind could very often think of you as an asshat. You are a kind person who is open to a wide range of experiences, I think those qualities are going to usually shine through. Anyone who mutes you probably has some issues to deal with that aren't really about you. On the other hand, I'm often a cantankerous dick and probably have earned a number of well justified mutes.am I unknowingly walking around like an asshat and I don't realize it?
re: filtered / muted / hushed. Nobody that I regularly interact with on this site is on any of those lists. In fact the vast majority of those people are people who came during influxes and stopped using the site within a week, so the numbers are very inflated. I'm very judicious in curating my feed so whenever we have a lot more people show up I spend some time culling a lot of them.
No worries! Your comment and the context of it caused me to think "that is an astonishingly high number, isn't it?" and based on your comment I don't want anybody here whose opinion and input I value feeling uncomfortable thinking anything along the lines of what you just posted - especially since those are exactly the people who are not on those lists.