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b_b  ·  1270 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Supreme Court rules in favor of same-sex marriage, overturning the Sixth Circuit Court.

Oh, so you feel like a horrible person for betraying your family, or thinking less of them? I took your statement to mean you are disappointed by the ruling, and think you're horrible because you have a conflict between your moral beliefs and your sense of civil equality.




Vox_R  ·  1270 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The betrayal of family thing was something I had to go through about six years ago, but have since gotten over. Though I'll never really get over that huge feeling of disappointment weighing on my gut that someone I once respected so highly---my father---could be so desperately close-minded.

The horrible person aspect? It's because my first inclination after many heated debates with most of the members of my family was to gloat. Six years of trying to show them that this was the right path, I feel like I deserve some "I told you so!" time, but doesn't change that it kinda turns me into an ass.

lil  ·  1270 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You must have gone through a difficult process of breaking away from the indoctrination. Losing family is hard, but good for you for freeing your mind to think for itself.

I also have family members who belong to a fundamentalist religion, and while they secretly think that their invisible friends are better than everyone else's invisible friends, we are still able to be very close and loving and mutually accepting (I think, more or less, well most of us).

nyfiken  ·  1264 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Gloating is evil. You have evil inside of you. But so do all of us. That you recognize it for what it is, and actively try to suppress it, is good enough; it means that you are ultimately a good person.

sakonyachen  ·  1264 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sometimes the reason a person feels like an ass is because an ass would never feel like an ass. I wouldn't be too hard on myself if I were you. Sometimes when people become addicted to antiquated illogical dogma, you gotta use some tough love.