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lil  ·  3264 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Hubski Self Help Club. First challenge: Be Impeccable With Your Word

This should include what we write as well as what we "say."

Did this idea come from The Challenger Sale? The book looks interesting.

Perhaps the slow response is because to "say only what you mean" requires that you know what you mean and you are able to choose the best words to say it.

But how often do words move us and others in the direction of truth and love? Truth and love might be the subtext, not the text.

I didn't speak to too many humans today, but I did try to be impeccable. Unfortunately, when the recipient of one's words is stressed and fragile or distracted and overwhelmed, it doesn't matter how impeccable my words are. I may as well be talking to lambda.





thenewgreen  ·  3264 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    This should include what we write as well as what we "say."
Sure, that makes sense to me.

    Did this idea come from The Challenger Sale? The book looks interesting.
-Not at all. It came from talking with a friend.

    I didn't speak to too many humans today, but I did try to be impeccable
-Me either, but I spoke to some people that matter most and I stand by all the words I used. Feels good.
lil  ·  3263 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I have the book you link to above The Four Agreements. I picked it up years ago, mostly because of #2 -- which is key in learning to not respond defensively when you feel attacked. So I hope you'll get to posting that next time.

It is a thoughtful challenge to people to choose words carefully and to take responsibility for what you say.