It's impossible for her though, she is literally incapable of enjoying herself without crossing everything off her to do list. She's a remarkable human being. Seriously, more efficient and productive than anybody I have ever met. She's a medical resident, a mother of a 1 year old, a wife and a good friend. She manages most all of our affairs, financial and domestic. I try to take on new responsibilities but she insists on being the one to handle everything. She enjoys being in control of the various parts of her life but because of her not being willing to give up certain responsibilities, she has very little free time and almost zero time for herself. Any extra minutes she has, she studies. The woman is a complete bad ass. And gorgeous to boot. I'm going to try and help more, wherever she'll let me and I'm going to try and force her to take some time for herself. She definitely deserves it. So does she have herself to blame for her lack of time? Partially. But mostly she's just damned busy.