Am I a redditor simply because I use reddit? If so, I am also a Wikipedia-er, a Google-r, a hacker-news-er, and even a never-never-gawker-ever-er. I would caution readers of this statement to remember that use of reddit does not automatically create an identity that supercedes the identity created by any use of any online space. I'm a Facebook-er and you could argue that Facebook does what reddit and Hubski do : curate content for me. A website-er who identifies as such should not do so simply because they use the website. I identify as a hubskier first, no matter how much I use reddit. My participation here is a result of Hubski only and how I feel and think about it. It has nothing to do with reddit and frankly, I view and use the two as very different animals. Reddit is my cheap and dirty entertainment. Hubski is my friends.
Added to the venerable list of hubski logans and slogos.
Can one of you explain the appeal of r/relationships to me? I just ventured there for the first time and it seems like it's trainwreck after trainwreck and filled with either awful people or stories of awful people.
I probably should have just taken the quote at face value. It's good to see you posting around here again, hope you've been doing well and that the root canal went well. Heard those aren't too pleasant.
Although humanodon is correct, I like to also view it in the following ways: 1) Stories. Don't bother trying to believe they're real, consider them stories, and all the stories just happen to focus on the nature of relationships, which leads me to.... 2) A pseudo-informative place where you can learn more about relationships: what's ok and what's not, what's bad communication and what's (supposedly) good advice, and so on. Info-tainment, with plenty of popcorn.
I used to sub to r/polyamory, back when I was trying/attempting polyamorous/open relationships (either, both). Unfortunately the lifestyle wasn't much for me. There are a couple of issues I personally have with multiple relationships that have more to do with practicality than jealousy or insecurity, necessarily (I don't have the time to have multiple successful relationships going at once, nor the interest to make that time by engaging less in my other leisure activities, for a big one) not to mention a rather strong natural competitive streak that makes it rather hard not to view others dating the same person I am dating as competition or people to compare myself against. I like to win a lot. It is not always an endearing quality. Honesty gets you the furthest in life if all parties involved can handle honesty like adults. I do agree that polyamorists can do magical things with relationships and communication - but I never found r/polyamory to be a haven for dramatic stories so much as advocating for a lifestyle whose appeal I didn't feel. But - I'll check it out and see if it's changed any.
I guess I am in the experimenting phase when it comes to polyamory. The point about people handling honesty like adults is very important. Until now, it has been going good, but my experience is limited to 1.5 years of multiple/open relationships. I noticed that it only tends to work out with girls that have a high self esteem. And ones that understand the difference between the time we spend together and the time she spends with somebody else...
I think so. I view Maury and Springer pretty purely as jaw-drop suck-in entertainment with no depth, and I feel like I don't approach r/relationships exactly in the same way. Though now you're just opened up a ton of potential for those shows with me.
True. I feel like there is less chance i'll get into an abusive relationship because after all the stories, i'll be good at spotting the red flags. And popcorn. I like to imagine some people I know might be posting. Not because I wish shitty things would happen to them but because it makes me realize everybody has their own shit going on they don't tell you about and I should make a better effort to be supportive and considerate to people around me.
Redditors meaning people from Reddit coming to Hubski in a flood. This discussion was sparked (I think) by controlling the number of new members, and the only time many new people come to Hubski is when a popular thread mentions Hubski. I agree with your points. This is off-topic, but the auto-word-controller highlights "Hubski" as incorrect, but doesn't highlight "Reddit." Strange, considering that we're on Hubski.