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_refugee_  ·  3567 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ignore users newer than X days Part Deux: The Reckoning

It took a long time for me to become an active user on Hubski, I would revisit it every once in a while when I was "out of Internet" but frankly, it took me a while to get the whole community/commenting aspect of it. You all acted like you knew each other! What was up with that! It's not that it felt insular but it definitely felt like a community and I wasn't used to that online.

I would spend time thinking of questions and deciding whether they were good enough to be #askhubskis or not. I think my first askhubski was when I began to feel more involved. I had some sort of thorny situation and I thought, "This would be perfect to ask hubski! I bet they would have some really great input."

That was probably when I began realizing it was important to pay attention to usernames. I never paid attention to them on Reddit - a key difference in how to approach sites, i think.





kleinbl00  ·  3567 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That was the time I called you a dude, I think.

_refugee_  ·  3566 days ago  ·  link  ·  

After reddit, I wasn't very trusting of most online communities. With that and my own hang ups, I was all about staying gender ambiguous on here at first.

rezzeJ  ·  3567 days ago  ·  link  ·  

We've been here the same amount of time and only now do I feel I'm starting to become an active user on this site, precisely for the reasons you stated. Because of that community aspect where everyone knows who each other is, I felt significantly more self-conscious about what and if I should post.