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user-inactivated  ·  3686 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I'm the Duke University Freshman Porn Star and for the First Time I'm Telling the Story in my Words

Two of my friends in college had Suicide Girls galleries and weren't very secretive about them. As far as I know they never got any shit about it. It doesn't happen to everyone. Even if it did, responding "well she should have known better" contributes to making it acceptable.





user-inactivated  ·  3686 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    It doesn't happen to everyone.

I wonder exactly why it's different in this case. Duke's culture is famously toxic regarding matters like this ... also maybe Suicide Girls isn't well known enough to catch fire in the same way as whatever she did.

I read in her interview that she's not sure she would do it all over again if she'd foreseen the potential negative consequences. I think that's sad; she shouldn't have to have regrets about having a financial problem and solving it in an inventive and legal way. It seems pretty clear cut to me that she's right and society's wrong here (and from an economic point of view very few things make more sense than going into porn if you're an attractive 18 year old) -- but I do think it's a bit naive that she assumed everything would be okay with her double life. Not to say that she should care; again, she's making a lot of money while her friends are graduating with crippling debt. But it's odd that she didn't see the fallout coming.

_refugee_  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I wonder if part of it is that OP was keeping it a secret. Of course, I understand why she was keeping it a secret, but it's much harder to use something like this as a "weapon" against someone if they own it. - as she is attempting to do through these articles and so on.

When someone uncovers a secret of yours, they uncover essentially a clear vulnerability. If you simply admit to whatever is thrown at you, and even "own" it - "Yes I did that, so what?" - it is harder for it to be used as a source of attack.

user-inactivated  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She was naive to think it would stay a secret (very!), but:

    When someone uncovers a secret of yours, they uncover essentially a clear vulnerability. If you simply admit to whatever is thrown at you, and even "own" it - "Yes I did that, so what?" - it is harder for it to be used as a source of attack.

...will she be able to get a job?

_refugee_  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She says she doesn't want to work anywhere that wouldn't accept her. Which is also naive. At the end of the day, if you don't have a job, you need to want to work any place that will hire you. I realize this is a pragmatist viewpoint and not everyone will share it and of course there are extremeist exceptions - yes, if you are unemployed, it's still okay to turn down a job at a hypothetical human-sauage-making company - but still.

On the other hand I'm fairly confident that if I had her resume I would be able to put enough spin on her current job(s) that she could keep them on the resume without eyebrows raised. "Actress." Depends on what studio she worked for, how famous the name is, how obvious the name is however. There's always the good old "Various" though.

And also, honestly, if she is not planning on working in film or acting in the future, why put it on her resume anyway - not saying make it a secret, but why advertise? If you get a job, have a discussion with your boss. As long as it's not a public-facing job there really shouldn't be too much problem getting hired. Now, dealing with coworkers who are aware of your career and might make untoward comments - that would be harder.

I think employers are more likely to be impressed with someone who is honest about less-than-ideal past history than someone who, when confronted, attempts to hide it.

user-inactivated  ·  3685 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I agree. It's all about spin and circumstance.

insomniasexx  ·  3686 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Having Suicide Girl galleries and full blown, real porn are quite different. In the case of Suicide Girls, the girls do themselves: they must get a photographer, an outfit, makeup, and they pay for the photo set. Afterwards, they put it up on Suicide Girls and you hope it makes front page so they make 5k. I would say the decision making process between "Hey, I'm going to sell my sexy naked photos today" and "Hey, I'm going to be paid to have sex with someone, on camera, while being directed, with other people on set " are completely different ball games.

kleinbl00  ·  3686 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Goth culture is down with porn. Always has been. It's part of the tweak.