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comment by pseydtonne

Not to hasten any anger, but you do realize that hatred is merely love spurned and anger comes from desire spurned. Screwing over everyone isn't going to get you any closer to satori.

I'm worried you'll throw good effort at bad and thereby compound your state. Yeah, Whitey's a pain in the ass. Nevertheless, the trick is to starve Whitey of power by starving him of your attention.





OftenBen  ·  3729 days ago  ·  link  ·  

First off, no anger here, I can appreciate your comment without taking offense.

Second, when I said 'screw everyone and everything else' I was (inaccurately) expressing the idea that I can't worry about everyone and everything else or I will go insane. That I must devote time and love to things I care about, and have only compassion for anyone who bugs me. Not love necessarily, not anger either, but compassion, and an empathetic understanding that the person being a jerk had something happen to them that twisted them to be a jerk.

pseydtonne  ·  3729 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Gotcha. I sympathize. It's why I avoid my home town like the plague: it is home to several people I love, but it's a psychic swamp. Every time I spend longer than two days in the place, my depression paralyzes me.

OftenBen  ·  3729 days ago  ·  link  ·  

There's a part of me that wonders if I would have to be seeing a therapist if I lived somewhere else, I empathize.