So, for those who aren't aware, I'm a trans woman. As one moves through transition, there's a lot of learning involved if one wants to "pass" as the gender they wish to be seen as - Walk the walk, talk the talk, etc.
Within that concept of "passing", or generally changing onesself to align more with the societal expectation of what "Male" or "Female" means (one doesn't have to tick all the boxes, just enough to sway opinion in the direction one wishes) there's a looming question:
How much do you change yourself?
WIth transition comes opportunity: you can change anything you choose about yourself. Don't like your voice? change it. Wish you had a cool accent? Develop one. Want to develop new, better habits? now's the time. Hate your weight? Wish you had the courage to wear the fashion you love? Change your hair colour, change your eye colour, get Laser eye surgery. You can become a new person, in a sense - decide you love Thai food, maybe.
But how much do you change before you lose your "self"? Were you your "self" to begin with, if you didn't like these things about yourself?
Even though I've come to this through transition, all of the things I've said are true of anyone. If you don't like what you've got, why don't you change it, as the song goes?
So, Hubski, if you had the opportunity remake yourself, would you? You don't have to share how.