I don’t hate men. I am not a victim of child trafficking. I have never been raped, or drugged, or done porn. I’m not an addict. I never had a pimp. I don’t suffer from what my American girlfriends call “daddy issues” and what my shrink refers to as “malformed identity centering on early childhood abandonment.” My dad had lovers. I don’t blame my parents for my job, or my life. Other kids have other problems. My parents had problems when they were kids. My therapist has helped me see that.


CrazyEyeJoe:

Fairly interesting, but MAN was she full of herself. Example:

    It’s better to have two great, dependable clients than 10 occasional customers. That’s what’s called the “80–20 principle.” I read it in a business book.
Who the fuck says that sort of thing? Are we supposed to be amazed because she read a book?

I also found her materialist worldview rather distasteful. Maybe it came from growing up poor, and I couldn't possibly understand, but I was almost shocked by the irony of her saying a thing like

    My mascara cost $130. Hair color was $200; eye shadow was $50, as was foundation and lipstick. A nice lingerie set costs at least $100; I spent $600. Not to mention the shoes.

    In real life, girls prepare in the same way, then the guy takes her to a diner, or he says, “Let’s go to a sports bar and we can drink bottles of beer.” What a schmuck. No wonder so many guys complain about not getting laid.

    My dates gave me flowers, Prada coats, iPhones. They did not take me to diners, or sports bars.

and later say
    Since I quit, no blow jobs, either. If you’re dating somebody and he didn’t live good before, and you start giving him blow jobs and doing different positions, you can spoil him. I don’t want to spoil someone that much.

"Please spoil me rotten with lavish gifts, and fancy dinners, but I won't spoil you with anything resembling real intimacy." What the fuck is that? How can you be in a relationship with someone you love, and not even want to give them the simple pleasure of a blowjob or a change of positions? Is that really so much to ask?

Maybe I'm being judgemental here. Part of the interest of this article is that she's being candid and saying what she really thinks. She's only 24, so maybe she still has some growing up to do, but frankly it sounds to me like this life has taken a great toll on her emotional well-being.

As of now, I don't think prostitution should be illegal. I even wonder if the reason it seems like so many prostitutes have emotional problems (purely anecdotal) is just because of the social stigma in our society, and not because it's intrinsically harmful to get paid to have sex. This article certainly doesn't push me further in that direction, though.


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