I wonder how representative this is of the dating population as a whole, especially in regard to black women. I still haven't tried online dating, but from the outside it really seems like because people can see pictures and read bios, that their fantasy person seems more achievable. It's kind of strange though, that there is no mention of Latinos, although perhaps that's because they're not so easy to pin down by race.

I have dated American girls and Vietnamese girls, but never an Asian American girl, unless the 1/4 Chinese girl I dated counts. Yeah, there are differences but not any kind of "Geisha" thing. The Viet girls I've dated have been very attentive, but they also had certain cultural expectations, like that I would want to marry and live out my life in Vietnam, hold down a good job and in general bring home the bacon, which over there means turning control of the finances over to them because finances are generally overseen by the wives. This would also mean that I would take care of their extended families and spend lots of time with them. As an Asian guy, I get that. As an American, that's not necessarily how I want my life to go.

Again, those are broad strokes. The American girls I've dated generally wanted me to be more involved with their friends and spending time with extended family is ok once in a while, but not expected to play a large role in our lives. That's fine too, as most of my extended family lives abroad. However, as a guy that is from both worlds, I'd really like to meet someone who like me, has desires for aspects of both and can relate. Especially after seeing so many family members, both male and female, marry Americans who at family gatherings look like they're drowning and often are annoyed because they are unfamiliar with the dynamic and are unused to being around people whose language they don't speak for long periods of time.