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yojoy  ·  4074 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Fiery Looping Rain on the Sun

The loop seemed big enough to hold Jupiter! Christ!

Bass: Michael Cera Drums: The Ghost of John Bohnam Guitar: The Resurrected Corpse of Robert Johnson Vox: The Voice of God

yojoy  ·  4088 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I Just Watched a Surprising Ad.

It is a very good thing, yes! AlderaanDuran gave an example of a woman who was anchored in her views toward gender roles. He also mentioned that even young people might very well have these ideas as ingrained in their minds as, say, the older generations. If more commercials like that Tide and Bounty one I saw are being produced, even if the intent is just simply avarice, they have the added effect of engendering new modes of thought into maturing audiences, which in the long run can help to disestablish centuries' old prejudices. I, for one, am very optimistic about that, as you are StephenBuckley.

yojoy  ·  4088 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are You Most Self-Conscious About?

I'm positive she thinks of it as well, though certainly not as much as me. She is the hardest worker I know. She is constantly juggling school work with her volunteerism as well as extra-curricula. She loses many hours of sleep writing up new essays for scholarships and colleges, and she works on the weekends. The only time we have together is weeknights while she does homework. She's expressed to me that she's afraid I too may find someone else because there's hardly any private time for the two of us. So yes, she thinks of it as well, but because she's so invested in her efforts to excel in her academics, there isn't much time left for romance in our relationship. She'd love for there to be a time when it could just be the two of us, but again, she's got the rest of her life in mind.

No, she hasn't read anything I've written haha. As you can imagine, she hasn't the time. But I know she'd agree with me. Our discussions are about the only opportunities we have to grow as a couple.

"*I like your writing*" Thank you! I really enjoy your blogs, keep 'em coming!

yojoy  ·  4088 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I Just Watched a Surprising Ad.

Well if Jeffrey Tambor is doing it, why not?!

yojoy  ·  4088 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: I Just Watched a Surprising Ad.

Oh wow, I haven't seen that one. What I got from that was anyone who is a stay-at-home parent is basically occupying an effeminate role. I think it pushes sexist stereotypes even further by using a man in that one. That's definitely not what I pulled from the one I saw before.

It just looks like as far as media is concerned any household position is an effeminate one. I agree that it's probably not that they are trying to cater to an emerging demographic with these ads, and it's probably no more complex than, "We need an ad commercial by the end of the month!"

yojoy  ·  4088 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Rumi The Guest House

Rumi's is something else, isn't it?

Is it alright if I share?

Fihi Ma Fihi 26

The human condition is like this: an angel's wing was brought and tied to a donkey's tail so that the donkey perchance might take on the qualities of the angel, whose radiance falls on it.

yojoy  ·  4088 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are You Most Self-Conscious About?

A condition specific to the hubski demographic? So, 18-25 year old males according to the last poll, right?

I wouldn't be able to point this train of thought specifically to my peer group, as every friend I've ever had fits comfortably in the "I thought everything was fine" category. What I found most annoying was the amount of energy they all spent poking their noses into the lives of their friends' relationships. Early on I attributed this solely to girls because of the kinds of typecasts I'd seen on television and cinema -- but of course, everyone was at fault, not just the girls. When I was able to really see the corrosive effects it had not just on romantic relationships but the relationships of friends themselves I made a conscious effort always be completely focused on my efforts to sustain a worthwhile relationship with my own partner.

So, over the years there's been plenty to learn. I'd say the best benefit of turning away from the (very often, ridiculous) situations that my friends put themselves in was that, in putting my relation to the one I'm with into a perspective without the tainting effects of various failing bonds around me, really gave me all the opportunity I ever needed to reflect on how it is that I wanted a relationship to grow and progress. I stopped taking the advice of others, the dispensers of "knowledge" who themselves were the ones with the trailing list of exes. I stopped giving any kind of gravity to advice columns and editorials about the "Top 20 Little Gestures That Reveal How She Really Feels", and things like that.

After two years with my current girlfriend I am still always searching for ways to change my approach to our relationship. I do this because I realized in past relationships there was a point of acceptance where neither one party sought to do anything different in how the relationship was experienced. It flat-lined. In my present relationship, however, I've recognized that the both of us are independent individuals who are never satisfied with sticking around for too long in any one frame of mind. We are constantly growing as individuals, at our own pace. As a result, it may be that her opinions of the world are anchored to one particular period of history that she completely identifies with and uses that to interpret her situation now. But I may be at the polar end of her opinions there! So we discuss, we laugh, we cry, we learn. We agree and we disagree. We have built a relationship that revolves around our desire to continually learn and never rest.

Now. My fears of my being a terrible boyfriend come into play when I feel that she is growing tiered of what we have, that perhaps she'd actually like a standard or average for us to maintain. Am I not romantic enough? Would she be happier if I surprised her every now and then with cute little gifts? I worry that she'll meet other guys who are far more tuned in with what she is thinking and feeling and that I've grown apart from from her -- that the differences between us have widened a gap that we acknowledged long ago. Would she ever leave me if she found someone on the other side of that gap? I worry about that. And so I can never stop wondering what it is that I can do to ensure that this relationship is still worth something, to the both of us. She can explore the world and her spirit, always across the universe in principle and philosophy, and I can do the same. I want us to always be able return to what brought us together in the first place without compromising who we are. We are both so far along that I honestly feel if I ever just stopped wondering these things, everything would collapse around us, and we would be strangers to each other.

yojoy  ·  4089 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are You Most Self-Conscious About?

A noble cause! The world is all the better for people like you. It's just such a burden to be closed off.

yojoy  ·  4090 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are You Most Self-Conscious About?

Haha sure. Two years now. The me worrying about how she may see me actually intersects with my desire to be less vocal. I can be distant at times when she needs me to be open to her.

So I am a cautionary tale of hermetical desires gone wrong. Beware! Be weary that you don't sacrifice the well-being of your relationships all because of little paranoias and irrational fears fogging up your vision!

yojoy  ·  4090 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are You Most Self-Conscious About?

We share that in common. The way I deal with it is just by being silent. I say little now, and try to really think thoroughly about what I do want to say.

But really, above all else, I'm worried that I'm a terrible boyfriend. That she is just waiting for the opportunity to leave me behind and to be free of me. That really terrifies me.

yojoy  ·  4091 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ladies in Hades (or: Hell's Belles!)

He's a man of wealth and taste, that's for sure!

yojoy  ·  4091 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: TED -Officially a meme hosting website: Kid President: I think we all need a pep talk

Well, does it lead anyone to genuinely reflect on their past achievements and to assess their future prospects to properly gauge the consequences of their social involvement?

Me? I laughed a lot.

yojoy  ·  4091 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dali's Illustrations of Alice in Wonderland (1969)

The nonsense of Carrol interpreted by the nonsense of Dali?! I'm amazed the fabric of reality remains relatively unscathed!

yojoy  ·  4094 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: H.P. Lovecraft's Advice to Writers

I get that. But I was just never into the branches of work that Lovecraft's stories reverberated in. I never played the board games or read the comics. I don't think I could ever get into Steven King. And I'm going to have to take your word for it that horror is where it is today because of H.P. So it's just easier for me to say that I would have liked to see more of a lterary-inclined Lovecraft because that's where his influence has rested for me.

As far as me having to pull myself at times through his stories, it wasn't a shortage of understanding because of his vocabulary -- I have dictionaries. It was because his forcing of all of these outdated words by even the standards of his day just because he liked to use them that made it difficult to trudge through some his stuff. I started The Dream Quest last spring and never finished it because it couldn't hold my interest. His efforts to convey the wonders of Carter's night journeys was just too bogged down by the wordiness of it all. I just stopped caring about Unknown Kadath. With that story, as well as a couple others, reading got in the way of the story itself, which is kinda my point.

yojoy  ·  4094 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: H.P. Lovecraft's Advice to Writers

Sometimes, I close my eyes and try my hardest to imagine a world where Lovecraft had abandoned his love of the archaic and abominable and instead had pursued with as much fervor a life dedicated to the literary essay. I would have liked that guy much more.

I think it's funny how he puts down works with a narrow vocabulary as being monotonous because of that limitation, whereas with his own works his superfluous writing itself can drag through the mud.

But I still love the stuff! Haha

yojoy  ·  4095 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Hubski Collaborative Story. I'll start: "once upon a time"....

Xerox looked beyond the Fax Mountains, solemnly wondering that their would be yet more invasions, more powerful than the Balang, far more competent in war. He strained his mind to remember the words of the shaman who had whispered dark prophecies when the moon shined red. Would he meet his doom out there? Or would he be the doom of the world?

yojoy  ·  4096 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Year 2038 problem

Can we get a layman's interpreter here? Please?

yojoy  ·  4117 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Southington, CT to collect and burn violent video games, CDs and DVDs

Isn't that dangerous? Burning CDs? I mean, there's going to be some really nasty fumes if this town actually does that. I completely sympathize with these folks but I wish they would choose a different, perhaps more effective, form of dealing with their grief. I don't think that burning games will necessarily bring about a national conversation on violence culture.

yojoy  ·  4169 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Reactionary men who fear and hate strong women

I just, don't know how to respond to this... Shocking almost seems like an underwhelming response. It is as if Frank was plucked straight of the Stepford Wives movie. All those girl empowerment programs that were around when I was in school always seemed kind of silly to me. But I really had no idea that there are guys like this who would openly preach this completely backwards way of thinking. Those programs never seemed so relavent to me. I hope no poor girl ever has to deal with guy's like this. I'm going to go hug my mother and my girlfriend and every single woman with a dream. I can't believe shit like this still exists out there. Unbe-fucking-leavable.

yojoy  ·  4174 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: P3

Thornton over here!

yojoy  ·  4185 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Disney buying ‘Star Wars’ maker Lucasfilm for $4.05 billion from George Lucas.

No kidding. I'll probably end up camping out for my seat. :/

yojoy  ·  4186 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Disney buying ‘Star Wars’ maker Lucasfilm for $4.05 billion from George Lucas.

I wonder if the Zhan trilogy would be explored on film? I doubt it would and that a new story is going to be made, but still. If it were adapted to film I actually wouldn't be as upset about all this as I am now.

yojoy  ·  4186 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Disney buying ‘Star Wars’ maker Lucasfilm for $4.05 billion from George Lucas.

I know he probably cares deeply about Star Wars, it is his brain-child after all. It's just that as a fan I am incredibly sceptically that the upcoming movies will be made with any serious intent at going for some serious artistic integrity. I wonder that that would be most of our concerns over this whole situation.

But you know what? You could be absolutely right. Perhaps a really competent director with really creative writers who are all really loyal to the Star Wars legend, and not just the Star Wars franchise will take the helm and take it all new heights. I really hope so, but I just can't help but maintain a high level of cynical skepticism. And I swear, the minute I see one family-friendly-antics-loving-allaroundgoofy-sidekick I will formally condemn this unholy union and damn it to the deepest pits of Tartarus.

yojoy  ·  4187 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Disney buying ‘Star Wars’ maker Lucasfilm for $4.05 billion from George Lucas.

I feel so abandoned. I feel betrayed, on the worst possible level. The imaginative wonder that captured my dreams as a child, way back when, is dead. But I had not known it was dead. When Attack of the Clones came out I was as happy as I was when I discovered Star Wars. When the Clone Wars mini series was on television, I felt as if I was living in a magical garden paradise where all is given to you on jewel encrusted golden platters. When I watched Revenge of the Sith on the silver screen I knew that I had something special, something real. There were dissenters, of course, there always must be. These, "Lucas Bashers", they were angry. They hated George Lucas. I could not understand. I was too young. "The Prequels are trash, a joke, blasphemy to what once was holy. George Lucas is a bastard." "How could you say that?" I would ask. Lucas gave us this gift! This treasure of the imagination! I would not let these older, jaded voices ruin what was precious to me.

I say, once. For now I know what they knew all along. George Lucas does not care about Star Wars. He is blind to the legacy that he created. Yes, it started with him, but it became something far bigger than George Lucas. His name may be all over the merchandise, at the beginning of each film and game, but Star Wars does not belong to him. This, this transaction with Disney, DISNEY! is the final nail in the coffin. Star Wars is dead. Has been dead. I can see it now.

I am being dramatic, but dammit George... I once cared.

Man, I love Meatloaf. But this sounds to awfully good to pass up! Is there anywhere else where I can watch this?