Great post, thank you AD for contributing. I totally agree with you about this The marriage thing gets complicated because in most of the US, gay couples are not allowed to get married. As IntimidatingScones said Couples are free to make their own decisions and do what they want with their relationship
I was talking about my own feelings of ambivalence in my blog, and I think other posters are simply talking about their own relationships. I don't think anyone here is interested in controlling other people's decisions. I feel the same way about abortion: If you don't like abortion, don't have one. Don't try to control other people.it seems more productive to me to try to fix the system
Gay marriage would be the first thing I'd fix. Many of the other legal problems were identified by the women at Seneca Falls (property rights, inheritance rights, etc.) and have been fixed over the last 100 years, but many still remain, like the problems mentioned by thenewgreen. Much more important than whether to legally marry or not is the deal with your partner. Are you honest about your money deal, your sex deal, your monogamy or nonmonogamy deal, your childcare deal, your career deal, your housework deal? Those are the things that determine the happiness of your relationship.