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veen  ·  92 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Online dating: Aim high, keep it brief, and be patient

As a guy, patience and (emotional) perserverence are mandatory. It can be a real fuckin' grind though. At a certain point I felt like I was having the same kinds of conversations over and over on various dating apps and dates, with different responses but similar results. It's hard to keep at it when you're effectively rejected by dozens if not hundreds of women.

I feel like I got off relatively well with the whole dating thing, only taking three ish months from nothing to finding someone where it really clicked. Friend of mine spent almost nine months looking around, chatting, and dating before he found someone good.

There's a Dutch saying though, "every jar has a fitting lid", meaning that for every person there's someone who would fit them really well. I believe that's true. You kind of have to believe that though, just to keep going.