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goobster  ·  2716 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 19, 2016

I'm also thinking of the practicalities here... what is the conversation going to look like? What words will you use?

Because, he knows everything you are going to say to him. He does. His dandruff. His plates. His eating habits. His fat-fuck-ed-ness. He knows all that, and it defeats him, and inaction is all he "deserves", so it is what he does.

What you do every single day - ride 1,000 miles through East LA, each way, to get to work - is more than he could possibly contemplate. You also lube your chain. Adjust brake cable tension. You can actually bend all the way over and get to the chain. You have a lovely wife and adorable daughter, and a job that pays well.

You, in short, are the problem. You are everything he is not.

And there is just no way at all I can see him hearing the words coming out of your mouth as anything other than reinforcing his existing uselessness. THAT's going to be the filter that all your words come through as they go into his ears... "This guy has EVERYTHING, and hates me for being a slob."

Again, I LOVE that you want to help this dude out. Your heart is in the right place, my friend.

But he is not where he can hear you.

There are some people who float away from the dock in a boat with no oars... and you just gotta let them go until they decide to learn to swim.