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snoodog  ·  2758 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What should teenagers spend their time doing?

For some perspective about how much social stigma young men get for even being near bigger women ill share some stories from my youth.

Freshman year in college there was a fat girl that liked my roommate. Our friend group constantly teased him about it even though he had no interest in her and constantly disavowed any association with her.

My best friend once invited a girl who was bigger but who he still swears to this day had skinny friends. She to a party but instead of the skinny friends she shows up with 3 fatter friends. He was so embarrassed I think he hid in his room for most of that party and drank alone. Also the rest of the guys made fun of him for it for years after. Hes married and 30 and he still occasionally brings it up now more to laugh at himself but still.

One of the guys hooked up with a fat girl in our house, forever earned the nickname "Big Game Hunter". Another guy had a thing for bigger girls, he became known as chubby chaser John.

The funny part here is that even the "Forever Alone" socially awkward kids would take pot shots at guys that hooked up with fat chicks and the guys own insecurity about hooking up with bigger girls would exacerbate the problem. There was very much a culture of it never being acceptable to be with a bigger woman and that doing so would make you less of a man.

In my experience for a young man to save face about hooking up with bigger girls it was important to always claim that it happened because he was drunk or to claim that it was just about getting some and then moving on to hotter friends. It was never socially acceptable to be satisfied with dating bigger women.