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_refugee_  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dear hubski, what would you like to say to your 17 year old self?

What happens to you does not define you. It may seem like it defines who you are right now, but life is generally long, and almost certainly longer than it has been already.

Wait it out.

You do not need to be that person that those things happened to forever. You will always be more than that. One day, you will want so much to be beyond that that you will no longer want to even talk about it.

But you will, to those persons special enough to warrant it. And that will be a trial, but worth it.

You are not, and will never be, a person to whom "something happened." You will always be more than that. One day, you'll be able to choose to never ever be that person anymore, if you want.

You can just be.

Give yourself time.