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Isherwood  ·  3179 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to become a resilient, hard-working person?

Lose the sense that you're going to do the right thing. You're not. There's no such thing.

There's really only the things that you do. Some of them will be really cool and move you closer to your vision. Some of them will be really awful and move you farther away. This doesn't make the action right or wrong, it just gives you new data. Collect that data from everything you do and apply it to your vision.

I also got rid of any real goals. At this point I have this idea in my head, a vision of the thing I'm trying to build and do. Whenever I try something, I gauge if I'm closer to or farther from that vision and act accordingly. This keeps me motivated because either my goals were too easy and I had false sense of accomplishment hitting them, or they were too hard and I felt discouraged. Now I'm just enjoying the journey.

Lastly, you don't really need to be hard working. You need to understand what it is you're trying to do and recognize what's getting you there and what's a distraction. You need to recognize that hearing "no" isn't the end, but neither is hearing "yes". You're setting out to do something in the world, know what that is and use it as your guiding light. So long as you can find and hold on to that, the rest will take care of itself.