I don't agree with this assessment, but I do agree that law enforcement should be handling this. (Although the police are in fact doing a bad job of this. For example look at the research results quoted in this article) ^ For example this portion of the comment. It seems to be saying that rape isn't rape when it's not violent. It dismisses and trivializes what people who have been sexually assaulted have been through. Attitudes like the above are harmful and I don't believe they should ever be encouraged. Blame the people taking advantage of the other person, not the victim. But this crusade against “rape culture” oversimplifies the vast complexity of human sexual interaction, conflating criminal sexual acts such as coercion by physical force, threat or incapacitation — which should obviously be prosecuted and punished — with bad behavior.
Even in the first incident, in which the man knowingly pressured me into something I didn’t want, I could have safely said no to him.