I agree with you that suicide is not the answer, and disagree with almost everything else you said there. Especially the last sentence. For a lot of these people "being yourself" is being sad, depressed, anxious, and having difficulty coping with day-to-day life and finding a way out of how they're feeling. Nobody likes feeling depressed and it never sits well with me when people say to just go out and enjoy life, because that is usually not the answer to other peoples problems when they're dealing with mental illness. If somebody said that to me (and they have) when I've been in a down-state I would not be pleased with that answer because it's at worst treating the symptoms and illness as more of a choice than the mental condition that is and at best showing a lack of understanding of the thought processes of a depressed person.