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nowaypablo · 4144 days ago · link · · parent · post: Does keeping your mouth shut make you weak?

Did you know that you can "ignore" someone on Facebook without unfriending them? That is how my sister-in-law and I can avoid fisticuffs.

Yes, the Restricted list? That is how I manage family friends and adults so that I can avoid showing them who I really am.

"Speak only when it improves upon the silence." - Mahatma Gandhi

Glorious. Writing that in first thing when my new journal ships. Lost my old one, god damn it.

Now,

"How can I get my friends to leave me alone on 'issue X' without offending them?" isn't actually my concern. Facebook is an example here, I'm not having a teenage cyber-social crisis where my friends are pressuring me and I wear a bag over my head to school, I'm having a teenage character crisis where I'm pressuring myself to make my life as happy as possible while damaging as little as possible around me. It is very much an in-person situation as well to be clear, and managing my friends isn't the crux of the problem so much as managing myself is. That said, the last thing my Feed needs certainly is "more gasoline," luckily I have very understanding and relatively intelligent friends who I don't have a problem dealing with.

Let me put it this way before I render completely incapable of articulation: My question is whether or not the aforementioned stance on confrontation makes me a pussy. It is not wondering whether or not my friends think I'm a pussy and how I should talk to them about it. ja feel?

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