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nowaypablo  ·  3805 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are you working on?

I'm working on communication (in-person) both in conversation and with strangers.

In New York, there is a lot of hostility, it's implied and assumed, and even when we marvel at all the beautiful things here I think we take everyone around us for granted. If I say excuse me after bumping into somebody on the train, people will actually look at me in sincere surprise that I bothered to acknowledge shoving someone into a wall.

- Offering a smile, a hello or a nod when making eye contact with someone on the street

-Being able to not break down in self-conflicting "dude fuckin' talk to her" "nah dude she totally won't dig me" "naah talk to her you pussy" when a cute girl is sitting next to me on the subway.

-Expressing my genuine curiosity/interest in what someone I'm talking to is saying, being able to remember it if its important to them, and engaging in their side of the conversation i.e. encouraging them to do the talking, instead of me unconsciously cutting them off and talking endlessly like I've increasingly been self-aware of doing.

And, waiting/searching for a stress-free time and a safe place to drop acid for the first time.

P.S. check out #vaguequestionsbypablo. Not that i'm updating it, but I've seen more people unknowingly repost from there than I unknowingly reposted from _refugee_.