Right, but then there are a couple of ways of breaking up, right?

Incoming story that I cringe just thinking about but will get through for the sake of discussion.

Had one girlfriend in HS. It was literally just for the sake of having a girlfriend. She was really nice but there was literally nothing we had in common except maybe videogames, which I think she pretended liking more than she did because she liked me (in retrospect I've always been terrible with signals). We "dated" for about a month but I didn't enjoy myself, or know what I was doing, or feel comfortable at all. But I still sorta wanted a girlfriend because that's what you do in highschool, right? You get a girlfriend and regret it immensely for every moment until you break up, the cool kids do it, yeah?

So anyways I didn't know what I was doing and I didn't really want to break up with her but I still kinda liked her for the sake of having a gf highschool is confusing. So I decided I wouldn't be the one to break up with her.

So I just sorta stopped talking to her.

If you think that's as awkward as that sounds, you would be correct! I just cold-shouldered her at school everyday, and it was hella awkward and cemented my belief that dating in highschool is like dating in the workplace.

Eventually she just sent me a text saying we weren't going out anymore and I got to feel the sense of relief that comes from holding in a vomit and finally letting it out because god dammit it needed to happen at some point right? (that might have happened to me last night, it might also be why this comment reads like a speed-story.)

Anyways, the point I'm trying to get to is that that was much more terrible a way of doing it than just being honest to her and saying that we had nothing in common and that I wasn't even a bit close to being in the right position and mindset to have a girlfriend (still am not). The former is terrible, the latter is inevitable, but the honesty makes it genuine, not terrible.

I'm gonna go buy crackers and sprite now.