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I wonder if part of it is that OP was keeping it a secret. Of course, I understand why she was keeping it a secret, but it's much harder to use something like this as a "weapon" against someone if they own it. - as she is attempting to do through these articles and so on.

When someone uncovers a secret of yours, they uncover essentially a clear vulnerability. If you simply admit to whatever is thrown at you, and even "own" it - "Yes I did that, so what?" - it is harder for it to be used as a source of attack.