I think it's easy to speak in generalities of what we want. For example, "I want to find a good woman to marry" is a really, really broad statement that is easily true. If I had to answer specifically, well then that would change day to day while falling within a general range. I don't know that I would trust someone who was incredibly specific in what they wanted. I mean, not to bag on anyone with disabilities, but I know an autistic guy who is incredibly specific about how he needs things to be and he's often upset because things don't go his way. I understand that my analogy is pretty sloppy, but my brain is pudding right now. In short, this stuff is messy. Like you, I'm taking some "me" time, since it often seems that when I get the ball rolling, it turns into an avalanche.