no quid pro quo

For me the nuance I'd add to this is tradeoffs can be ok, but they're done in the open and generally comparable. Not "if you come to Christmas at my parents I'll let you go out with your friends next weekend" but more "I'm training for a marathon which means I'm doing fewer of the communal tasks so I'm going to make sure to give you time for your hobbies when the race is past."

In my mind it's healthy to give up some things I want to do, but drawing the line at things that are important to me even if they aren't essential. Running a marathon is a want. Running at all is important. Doing some organized races is important. Doing a specific one is not.

But even then if I said I wanted to run a marathon next fall and was asked not to, it should be because of something important to them. Like if the race is a Saturday but her brother is getting married Sunday and she doesn't want me to be useless and exhausted at the wedding? Ok. Doesn't want me to because she wants to hold that weekend in case it's peak leaf color change? Not so good.

12. What does an equal relationship mean to you

I was talking with a friend last week, and what I said to her is "being able to say 'no' means I can trust the 'yes.'"

It's really about anything, as mundane as "can you check on my cats?" So in a relationship, equal means to me being able to trust the response of the other. If they always say yes to appease me, they're putting their happiness on my lap and I bet neither of us will be happy.

Happy hardest puzzle-a-day day to all who celebrate. mike Still going on the app with three solutions every day since December 1.

Is it worth it to pay for Duolingo? I started using it to learn Spanish for no reason than to have something mildly productive to do with my phone.

I was full time remote from March 2020 through April 2022. I loved it. My employer started bringing people back in the office then with our policy expecting people in the office at least three days a week. At the time I grumbled a little, but once in the office I found value in being here rather than home. Not value to the company, value to what I want out of my career.

I think our policy is reasonable. We're a small enough company the individual relationships are significant. It also provides flexibility. Need to be home to let a plumber in? Just do it, no need to even inform your boss other than letting them know you'll be on Teams not in a meeting room.

The most important thing about our policy is it's been consistent. It's what they were saying for months before being implemented, and it's been unchanged ever since. I can plan my life around this.

My old job went to full remote. I've talked to people there who are all-in on remote, and one joked if they bring people back to the office he'll be looking for a job, and I believe him. I talked to another guy who said he's usually in the office and it's odd having a mix of people he sees every day and people, including his staff, who he never sees. I think they'll start bringing people back and create a lot of angst because of the change.

After change, I think people are upset that salaries are up 2% while corporate profits are up 8% with inflation of 5%.

Did my fourth 70.3 distance triathlon today. Amazing weather lead to a small overall PR and a big run PR. I really tried to keep the run pace slow to not blow up and end up run/walking most of the course.

She said she envisioned herself in a hard hat, wielding a chisel and “going to town, trying to make it a dust pile while I am in there.”

I do Body Pump every Sunday, and sometimes the lunge track has pulsing where you get into a lunge and go halfway up like eight, maybe sixteen times. It's always near the end of the workout, and I find it really hard. I often close my eyes and imagine the finish line of a marathon or 70.3 because to date no matter how tough it is I've always been able to run through the chute to the finish line.

I need to work on pushing through the pain cave in the middle of a race and not just the end. I always end up walking a bit when I want to keep running.

Relevant: https://run247.com/running-news/trail/utmb-2023-results-women-courtney-dauwalter-triple-crown-treble-history