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And I long for you to appear

After losing your way across star riddled skies

To carry you home

I cherish my loss

A gentle reminder, that life is unkind

At the best of times

Home could be anywhere, when I am holding you...

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I love Hubski. I'd never have known this existed, or why it was silly, anywhere else.

Foveaux  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 495th Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

Love me some of King Giz -

Foveaux  ·  6 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 3, 2022

I got a tablet to do some digital art and read and write and stuff.

Is fun! I've really missed doodling. I think everything I've done so far has been moody and monochrome.


More moody things to follow.

Foveaux  ·  6 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 27, 2022

A depressing read! I agree though, she certainly fits the bill.

She hosted a dinner at her place last year, when she came on board and wanted to help her team be cohesive (She manages us 6, each of us 6 manages a team of 10-12). All 6 of us arrived, bringing a potluck dinner etc. It went fine, we talked, laughed and had some drinks. Her husband is nice, but very reserved.

It wasn't until afterwards that I put words to how I felt. I messaged my colleague that something felt off about the house. Colleague responded immediately "It felt manufactured. She had nothing that was 'her'. It was like a real estate agent had come in and prepped the house to be seen as modern and inviting, but it had no fucking warmth". She was right. I'm yet to see a lick of personality from my boss, it's always whatever she thinks people want to see, or need to see.

Apparently she plays in a band, but the instrument changes from conversation to conversation. She enjoys clay bird shooting, but has brought it up once in conversation and never again in the 18 months I've known her. Sure people can enjoy hobbies and not talk about them, but the number of interests mentioned in passing is staggering.

It's.. Wild, man. Truly wild.

Plus! As you've articulated, this is commonplace in those roles. My next step is into that exact role, and I am nowhere near vicious enough. I got promoted because people know I care about them and they trust me but I do genuinely worry I'll have to sacrifice some of 'me' to make it at the next level. I will try, but I don't have high hopes.

If I could 'create' for a living, I would.

Foveaux  ·  7 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 27, 2022

I'd lie. If it doesn't impact me at all, I'd lie.

I have a similar kind of boss. She told me day one that she struggles with "maternal feelings". At the time I took it to mean she wouldn't coddle me, and I felt that would be fine as I don't want to be coddled.

But in the past year I've learned she will 100% go to bat for herself, and will ignore anything and everything that doesn't impact her. She'll have these massive projects for someone of her station to be handling, and delegate everything she can to me, and reap the rewards of my hard work. She'll book meetings, then not turn up. She'll book meetings with big, important people, not tell me, then chastise me for not being there and "making her look like an idiot". Everything is about her image, and her brand within the organization. Thankfully her image is kind of ruined as people above and below are now wondering why on earth she got the role in the first place.

She asked me to be an observer for her Belbin role test thingy, and I lied entirely, to just say what she expected to hear.

Thankfully, I've learned an awful lot from her. It's just been by watching her behave and learning how not to do something. My organization has an incredible amount of lateral movement, so I can still climb the ladder, but wow it's been a learning experience dealing with someone like that.

Foveaux  ·  120 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What's on Friday

My brother recently visited and he was urging me to start the show in time so he could watch the finale with me when he flew down. I didn't get round to it but I've got it on my list to check out now!

Foveaux  ·  120 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 3000 Days

Oh wow I just checked mine, approaching 2500 days. I'm barely here but I do enjoy just popping in and seeing what people are posting etc. Nice work on the 3k mark :)

Foveaux  ·  120 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 6, 2022

I've started encouraging discussion about the situation. But my manager is super not keen on allowing WFH, so it's kind of under the table at the moment. Kiwis are allowed to travel overseas now finally, so one staff member has flown to the USA for a month, and I said she could work from home in the build up - lest she get Covid and have to cancel the trip.

Sure enough my manager said no to working from home in the build up, so I told my staff she could do it anyway and we wouldn't tell anyone. She WFH, got on her flight and is enjoying herself. Nobody outside of our area knew and her work didn't alter in the slightest.

Foveaux  ·  122 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 6, 2022

With winter approaching, my parents have surprised me with a very nice early birthday present. They hired a pro gardener to take care of my large but overwhelming backyard. My partner and I have been in maintenance mode with it since we bought the place, but never really stamped our mark on it.

This guy has come along, trimmed the hedges right back, dealt with the weeds, and took care of the massive compost pile that was sitting up the back, comprised mainly of things that are not degrading. He estimates about 5 years of stuff has been piled onto it and honestly I was just ignoring it as best i can; especially as we hadn't added to the pile since we took over ownership.

It's now gone, and I have a nice large section like a blank canvas! First project, build an actual compost bin. Once spring hits, I'll be ready..

Foveaux  ·  122 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 6, 2022

My work was adamant we had to return to the offices as soon as we could. It's so strange seeing them try to sell it to us, after we adapted to remote working damn near seamlessly.

My staff are the operations people supporting the teaching that goes on in our institution - they don't need to physically be there for anything, and haven't since our rapid adjustment in 2020. But no, the powers that be want us all to be on site, wearing masks in the empty offices, continue paying for parking/commuting as the price of living creeps up.

Does my head in. I'm allowed to work from home when I need to, management perks, but I really hate doing that when I know none of my staff are offered that same flexibility.

Foveaux  ·  122 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 479th Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

Foveaux  ·  139 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 23, 2022

I'm also so sorry this is happening to your family - I'm so glad your father is able to get the care he needs though. The support structure you've provided is immense :)