Easy one for me, though - Monty Python's "Always Look On the Bright Side of Life". It only makes sense, to play the song from the end of "Life Of Brian", to mark the end of the life of Brian.
A good friend told me his wife wants "Baby Got Back" by Sir Mixalot played at her funeral - some inside joke. I love the irreverence of that idea.
Or perhaps you would actually let them all know and it would be a moment of "musical" reflection. Better yet, you could pass out blank sheets of paper and ask them to all sing along.
If you've not heard it, it's got some of my favorite lyrics.
Though, a Nick Drake tune at your funeral might be just what the mourners ordered:
here is a link to a song that I recorded called "Grow Up". I love this song and I think I'd like it played at my funeral. Why not? I wrote it and recorded it with some great friends.
I love this question though and I'm going to think on it some more.
Baby Got Back?? -Hmmm.... :-)
This is the first time I've mentioned it though.
Below the surface this day I need it light Inside dimension lies another sacrifice Once out of reach, we never speak, we never compromise As they turned to gold the edges froze and seemed to turn to ice All flight departures assembled not returned Left in these passions I looked but never learned There's hope, you've heard there's life in another world Sometimes you'll find that truth is never kind In the ghost lies a portrait of space that time is never here In the mind of a fallen man, an easy day in another land Ship sails out to sea, away from me, I just stand and stare Assassin clears his lens, another end, I wasn't even there One day it came to mind we even leave the rest behind Some day, I know, you get where you should go There's hope, you've heard there's life in another world Sometimes we'll find that truth is never kind One day it came to mind we even leave the rest behind Some day, I know, we even get where we used to go There's hope, you've heard there's life in another world