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comment by saldejums
saldejums  ·  3924 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why Have Sex?

Thanks for your reply, it really cleared some of my skeptics and I understand how that may achieve what you have showed me, even if I do not completely understand or can imagine the mechanics behind that.

I believe that everybody has his own head, arms and legs and you cannot simply become more socially better just because some other as person as you are, has decided to engage with you in a marriage. I don't think that it is right to judge one person just because he is married/have sex with another, just like if my small brother marries Merkel does not make him a better or more of a person, just like that does not magically increase his charisma or politician skills.

The oppression with propagating sex is not only against asexuals, but to human society as all. There are people who can not do that because they are not attractive enough and all the western cheap music and media makes them feel worse, saying that "You do not have «The best feeling in the world»!" It plays also against older people who have lost the ability to have or enjoy that, brainwashes children to desperately seek it even if they do not want it, but because "everybody else do that," and there is terrible voice screaming over every corner "I just had sex" through every sound device, barring into the mind "It is good, it is the best feeling ever, everybody has it, the more you have it, the more successful you become, closer to the stars on the telly."

It is just incorrect to propagate and use it for the marketing purpose for the very same reasons as ads containing hidden messages, racism and hatred are banned.





humanodon  ·  3924 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think that in regard to advertising and idealization, you are correct. There are countless reports of how forms of media put forth unrealistic ideals of physical beauty and desirability and how that negatively affects people in a multitude of ways that I think, could legitimately be seen as abuse if only the context were different.

What's interesting to me is that people are aware of many more reasons not to have sex these days, including unwanted pregnancy, the pursuit of a career and antibiotic resistant STDs and STDs, not to mention HIV and AIDS. Because of this, I think many people are actually having less casual sex than in some prior decades, especially in Western countries.

This is part of what I was getting to in my other response to this post. There is a lot to think about in regard to sex and as someone who really enjoys sex, that makes me a bit sad. Sex to me, should be solely about feeling completely alive and in the moment in an instance of physical, mental and at best, emotional connection with another person. But by building sex up as this grand, reality shattering thing, I think, robs sex of some of its actual power. I haven't cared much for the majority of the casual sex I've had, but I do wish that sex in general could be more casual, that is to say, less of an ordeal.