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lil  ·  4090 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Are You Most Self-Conscious About?

Thanks for your thoughts on this, yojoy. First of all, I enjoy your writing.

    So we discuss, we laugh, we cry, we learn. We agree and we disagree. We have built a relationship that revolves around our desire to continually learn and never rest.
Has she read that passage? Does she agree?
    And so I can never stop wondering what it is that I can do to ensure that this relationship is still worth something, to the both of us.
All this wondering, it sounds like you are doing a lot of the emotional work in the relationship, or is she also thinking a lot about the sustainability of the two of you?




yojoy  ·  4090 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm positive she thinks of it as well, though certainly not as much as me. She is the hardest worker I know. She is constantly juggling school work with her volunteerism as well as extra-curricula. She loses many hours of sleep writing up new essays for scholarships and colleges, and she works on the weekends. The only time we have together is weeknights while she does homework. She's expressed to me that she's afraid I too may find someone else because there's hardly any private time for the two of us. So yes, she thinks of it as well, but because she's so invested in her efforts to excel in her academics, there isn't much time left for romance in our relationship. She'd love for there to be a time when it could just be the two of us, but again, she's got the rest of her life in mind.

No, she hasn't read anything I've written haha. As you can imagine, she hasn't the time. But I know she'd agree with me. Our discussions are about the only opportunities we have to grow as a couple.

"*I like your writing*" Thank you! I really enjoy your blogs, keep 'em coming!