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kurmit  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Ask Hubski: What is your new years resolution for 2013?

Probably a good way to lay out some goals here, so why not?

For 2013, I want to be less judgmental of those around me. It's been a real problem lately; I don't really know what to attribute it to, but I know it makes me an asshole most of the time. Rather than seeing something and immediately moving to mild annoyance and self-important critique; rather than seeing the worst in people, I'm going to make a concerted effort to see the best in them.

I'm also going to go with a generic one that I imagine lots of people on here have (but important none the less!): In 2013 I want to be more confident. It's something that I've struggled with for most of my life, and it has recently dawned on me that it's one of the most important qualities one can have, whether it's dating, performing well in a job interview, or just having a good effect on the people you might be talking to.

Final resolution: more exercise. Not as much for the weight-loss as the mental serenity that routine exercise brings. It's underrated, in my opinion - people don't talk it up as much as they should! This shit is incredible - you feel good afterward, it brings focus, the list goes on. I need more of that!





JestersCap  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well, now I have to become less judgemental too :/ That hit me hard... I'm always seeing the negativity in things. Probably why my ex gf left me :(

littlebirdie  ·  4126 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hi kurmit - these are great resolutions. I especially love your resolution to be less judgmental. That can be a tough one! I went through a rough patch a few years back when I was rolling my eyes at everyone and everything around me. It ended up that I was the problem, but I couldn't see it then. The way you write about this tells me that you will be victorious, a kind person in 2013. I hope you post a follow up after some time, because I can always use suggestions on how to see the world and her people as a kinder place.

thenewgreen  ·  4103 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hey kurmit, wondering how it is coming with the confidence, being "less judgmental and the exercise? Hope it is going well, I too have been trying to exercise more. I find it difficult as it has been pretty cold of late and my preferred exercise is outdoor running.