Hi everyone. I am new to Hubski (no I didn't come over from THAT Reddit post, I lurked, but that post made me sign up and want to contribute more.)
I find a lot of 'ask' posts around the web are looking for advice, which are always excellent, but I would love to know what you consider your strong traits. I think anyone who grows up well-adjusted knows that they should be confident in who they are and what they do like about themselves as well as traits they'd like to work on - and seeing others' strengths may help that.
Personally I would say I have spent a lot of time working on my communication skills. Most importantly I think I can approach a discussion as a discussion without turning it into an argument (something my family seems to do at every opportunity).
I think it comes down to always questioning your own belief in something which leads to the ability to hear what people are saying and to process it, and speak your own truth back. This has helped me SO much in my relationship, work, family, just about everything.
I know that is a bit vague but I'll leave it at that - what are your strengths?
But I'm just being mean. Naturally, I do see myself as having certain strengths, even if I know that one can't really speak of oneself in this sense, and that my vices perhaps outnumber by virtues. I like to think I'm rather non-judgemental. I don't care what other people do or believe, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. I see this in myself because I seem to be surrounded by judgemental people who make all sorts of comments about other people smoking and drinking, or having a bad hair cut, or whatever. I mean, who cares? It's no concern of theirs!But when all is told, a man never speaks of himself without losing something. What he says in his disfavour is always believed, but when he commends himself, he arouses mistrust.
- Michel du Montaigne, Essays.
Probably it´s my ability to adapt to different environments, I feel like I can relate to almost anyone, and also compassion. I´ve been privilege to travel a lot, because of this I´ve met a lot of amazing and interesting people. I´ve notice that I can fit in a lot of different social situations and do fine. This comes handy very often. I also like to help a lot of people when I notice that actually need my help. This can also backfire on me because people can (and had) taken advantage of me. But I feel that compassion is very important.
My ability to let go of things. Because of this I never get anxiety or panic attacks which a lot of my friends seem to get. I also feel like it helps me focus on certain things as well. At same time I feel like it is also a weakness since it seems like i let things slide sometimes too easliy.
Hey, I'm also new, and I DID come over from THAT reddit post, but hopefully I'm not one of the annoying people. Back to the question, my greatest strength has to be perseverance. I tend to not give up even when I know there's little chance of winning, or even when I've lost hope in a situation. It's served me well in my relationships with family and friends and it's probably my favorite part of being me.
What is this reddit post that everyone keeps talking about? I must have missed it but I really hope all the annoying people of reddit just stay there. Any who, to answer your question, i think one of my biggest strengths are optimism and compassion. That almost sounds like a generic interview answer, but it is what it is. I don't know why and how I have become so optimistic in life, but I cannot seem to find a situation in my life, no matter how sad, where I haven't felt overly optimistic about the outcome. And really, it might not have always turned out to be good but optimism doesn't seem to leave me. No complaints there!
I don't care what the content is as much as I want a better discussion about the content, and that's why I switched. On reddit, you'd sometimes get similar articles, but the comments would be a ton of puns and stupid memes, with the longer posts downvoted because they were too long. I hope to never see tl;dr's on this site.
Fairly confident most of the people here are from Reddit or Digg in the first place. Try /r/bestof.
I still browse reddit myself, not going to lie but I have seen a considerable decline in the quality of posts lately. I heard about hubski randomly on the internet and have been lurking for a while. I am just glad that more people are participating here because hubski does have great discussion posts and interesting articles but it can get boring due to lack of content.
I understand totally. The phrase "meme graveyard" comes to mind. I mean, reddit has carried me a long way in terms of how I interact with social media, and it is still and always will be a great community, but EVERY comment is shot down. EVERY post the majority of people make are shot down, and thats just not fun. When I made my first post, I was astronished to recieve just a few comments. This is why hubski will attract lots of redditors. Unfortunatly I dont think it will ever overtake.
Yes, if you disagree with the hive mind, you will get downvoted to oblivion. That's basically the motto of reddit. And honestly, I hope it doesn't overtake reddit. Reddit is great for passing time and with filters in place, you can avoid some(obviously not all) annoying content. Hubski can be more of a mind bleach after a disappointing trip to reddit!
Not only does disagreeing with hivemind get you downvoted, mind. Agreeing with the hivemind puts you in a circle jerk. When I started out on reddit, I got abuse for not understanding the trends of the site or using the right memes. Here, there is no unspoken stupid rules to conform to.
OH yea how dare you NOT KNOW WHAT THOSE MEAN! hhah...those are def silly, always made me laugh. It also makes me sad that now there is a total disregard for rules of subreddit and anything gets upvoted, even if it doesn't belong to the said subreddit. Like most of the r/facepalm posts are actually really funny. I guess it's okay that people are just upvoting based on how much it entertained them but seriously, if it doesn't fit..it doesn't fit.
Prime example, /r/wtf. Comments constantly ridden with stupid discussions about what is WTF, and then, the post itself which ISNT WTF. The mods just dont do anything, and the subreddit just slowly rots. Then, all the truly WTF post are gore.
Using top comments and posts may be the answer, but then new and original content dies.
The horrible fact is that most people are happy to participate in this decline and just adjust to the new content. A lot of my friends say that they just go on Reddit and just upvote anything mildly amusinsg, even though they know its drivel. Because, well, its just the way reddit is going. Contact the mods, comment if something is awfull, screw hivemind. Hivemind doesnt portray all of reddit, just the select few teenagers and circlejerks who are willing to impose their views over the entire site.
Good for you. If things don't go my way or I am feeling worried about something coming up in life, I tend to just think 'it'll be fine. It always turns out fine.' and it always has. Maybe I'm just lucky or maybe that mindset puts you at ease and able to cope better..
I believe it's the mindset or the 'attitude' that gets one through tough times a lot more than than someone who is already in a dire situation and things are made worse with a horrible self deprecating attitude. That being said, that last statement is not an attack to people who cannot take the tough goings of life as well as others. Just a comparison of how things could be made worse with a pessimistic outlook in life. PS: definitely appreciate the link to the infamous post! haha
In the past year (almost to the day) I was dumped by the first girl I ever loved, sat with her in the car on the way home from college (because we made plans to travel before she dumped me and I couldn't get home otherwise) which led to the car rolling after the driver fell asleep, I had two shoulder surgeries because of this, I spend the first four-five months of 2012 in a depression, got a new girlfriend, was accused by a teacher who thought my roommate and I cheated on a test (at the very least I didn't cheat...), my dad refused to cosign on my loan to go back to college because it wasn't the college he wanted for me, so I moved back to Arkansas where my ex-college is so that I could be with my girlfriend, worked for tip wages at a restaurant that earns me MAYBE $10 a shift in tips at less than part time, and I just came up on my 1-year since the accident. My strength is fortitude. I could've gone the easy way at any point, moved in with my parents and just coasted by in life, but I didn't. I did things the hard way so that I could do what I knew was the right thing for me. And even though things stink a lot of the time I still just ride through the storm, because if I ever gave up I could never forgive myself.
I would say that my greatest strength would be my ability to plan ahead. I don't plan an hour or a day in advance I like to plan for the week and have a rough idea of what I want to do that month and I never do anything without considering the consequences. I found that this really helps with school work. However I would also consider it my weakness. I can't do anything without considering the consequences and it has excluded me from slot of the craic that the lads would be having.
I think a strength I have learnt in the past few years is to be honest about who I am and who I want to be. For instance in the sense of being more honest about who I am I think one of the hardest things after growing up is being honest with your parents, you change so much at college/uni as you grow up sometimes they still treat you like a child, in my experience being honest to them (mostly) about who I makes it easier to relate with them now.
Mental and emotional fortitude. I rarely lose my cool when confronted with a bad situation. Some people tend to mistake this in me for apathy... I just don't freak out. I can assess a situation and find a solution quickly and effectively, while still being able to process it emotionally later. When I spilled half a pot of boiling fry oil on myself while alone in the house, I got myself to the bath and applied cool water to get as much of the oil off as possible, gathered my things, then called my mother for a ride to the hospital. I didn't cry or stress, and even made jokes to the nurse at the front desk while most of my left leg was covered in hand-sized boils.
Personal analytics. If something is a recurring personal problem I can usually figure out the cause and get to work on that pretty fast. Also carries over to school,job...