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uhsguy  ·  113 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to confront someone for potato theft?

I think it might be better to have a few instances of this documented before you confront the person. Just in case you are wrong. Maybe they threw a 20 in and then didn’t pay after (I’ve done that before when I don’t have change). I guess you would hate to be wrong about this because once the accusations are made you are just better off firing this person because they will forever hold a grudge. There is no going back once it’s done

elizabeth  ·  112 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, that's the touchy part. The actual footage is not of very good quality. And there could be extenuating circumstances, where they might have thought they paid, or paid earlier. We found the beer undrank and unopened in the yard in the morning - it was the clue that led us to checking the video footage actually. The part where she puts her hand in the tip jar is really far away and you can't really tell what happens - just that she's taking instead of depositing something, and then puts something in her pocket. And banning a person for taking 2 potatoes ... eh (that we're actually gonna give away on Monday since we have many leftover and they would go to waste otherwise).

It's genuinely small potatoes, I'm not advocating for any repercussions yet . But just get the message across that we're onto her, and that this behaviour is not accepted at the space. If only because it's breaking the trust we have, it's a bad example to set to other members and it's unfair. No one is above the rules.

We're threading lightly, since an accusation is not retractable. But a common strategy of petty thiefs is also gaslighting... And tolerating shitty behaviours from people that "contribute" a lot in other ways, or have a certain status is what creates a toxic kind of community.

psychoticmilkman  ·  112 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    We found the beer undrank and unopened in the yard in the morning

So interesting that they took the potatoes and left the beer.