Resolutions suck balls. They're too big and the deadline is too far away. They're almost always of the "do more" or "try harder", without ever addressing what to do less and how to do things differently. They're almost always goals with a pass/fail state, which isn't at all helpful with long-term changes in your life. Personally I much prefer a yearly review to end with a general theme or direction - a (few) answer(s) to the question "which part of my life do I want to focus more, even at the cost of other parts" - and a list of short term actions to put on my to do lists so I know they'll actually get done. My 2020 theme I've dubbed the Year of Free, with the idea that I want to spend less time committed to meetings, take more time off and excercise more during work hours, and further improve how I spend my free time.
That boils down to quantisation, though. Learning something like a new skill can be split into tens of small, week-long goals or steps, but (at least for me) that's harder to focus on than "I want to know how to do X by next year reasonably well" and meander toward the desired outcome. Failing one step along the way doesn't feel like such a huge setback, ya know? For each their own, and, though I appreciate introspection you share, I probably couldn't follow your recipe for success and vice versa. Good luck with your goals!Resolutions suck balls. They're too big and the deadline is too far away.