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ThurberMingus  ·  146 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, How Has Your Decade Been?

In the moment I can never tell the difference between soul searching and navel gazing.

It turns out I started college at the same time as ButterflyEffect and ilex though. So one decade ago I finished my first college semester with I think about a 3.45 GPA, just shy of the 3.5 required to keep the scholarship I had. My GPA had a remarkably linear decline until 5 years later I graduated from a cheaper school with a GPA about .05 points above the minimum required for graduation.

A bullet point list of my decade looks a lot more impressive than it feels. Because the bullet point is that I got the degree I set out to. And really, I had a good time freshman year, sophomore year was stressfull, transferring sucked, second sophomore year was worse, social life got better jr and sr years, but I had really started hating anything academic at that point...

Same situation with job stuff, looks good as a bullet point, but its not interesting enough of the time for me and the details are all about which directions to push while I'm still there, or what direction to look if I move on.

10 years ago I could not have guessed where I would end up now. I don't even remember what I wanted the future to be back then.

The biggest positive by far is meeting my wife and getting married. And her personality is not who I thought I'd end up with, but definitely better for me.

We bought a house a month ago. Again it looks like a fancy milestone as a bullet point, but I'll wait to judge that decision in the next decade thread.