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comment by OftenBen
OftenBen  ·  1614 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 23, 2019

Its meant to be a broad answer.

There isn't a concise way to explain the problem.

I don't have it in me to type out a novel detailing the origins of the situation.

Suffice to say that there is no amount of camouflage that will make someone decide to act loving instead of antagonistic towards their own child.





kleinbl00  ·  1614 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You're not wrong. But you're also giving too much credo to the problem being religion. It could easily be that "religion" is just an avatar for the concept of "adopt my ways completely and unquestionably" in which case it can be dumb shit like "date an African-American" or "listen to rap" or "vote democratic" and you're right- there's no room for dissent in that case.

But you benefit from determining what the problem truly is.

I spent several years at loggerheads with my in-laws over a panoply of symptoms that all boiled down to "we don't like having our ways challenged by outsiders" and after all, they'd already accommodated one new husband why should they be required to accommodate another. Problems still erupt but I'd be a moron to believe they're what they're ostensibly about.