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kingmudsy  ·  578 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 7, 2019

    I'm looking forward to planning and cooking food.

This was (and is!) my favorite part about living on my own. I have recipes for lazy days when I don't really want to cook, but most of the time I get so much enjoyment out of crafting elaborate meals all for myself :)

    I'm going to have to study and like revise and stuff...And I am anxious about how that it going to work out.

I have a feeling you'll be okay! You did IB, right? It's going to be a similar workload, but you're going to have more unstructured free time to manage this stuff. Truly, you'll get used to it. You might feel overwhelmed now, but I promise once you're in the trenches it'll be easier to plug away at.

I don't know how university is in Europe, but in America things were usually a little more free-form than high school. Professors have a lot more room to work with you to make sure you're learning the material, and you're going to have a ton of resources you can rely on if you need them.

    Will I find any friends?

Definitely! I made some of my best friends in college. There's going to be a ton of new people, and you might (for the first time) have more options for friendships than "We have compatible personalities and live nearby." Moving out (for me, anyway) was a huge opportunity to find people with common interests. You might be surprised at the variety of people out there!

    Will I like the typical student life?

I did, and you might! "Student life" encompasses a lot of different lifestyles, though. You'll find a way-of-life that suits you, and it'll become a comfort once you've gotten it down.

    Will I feel horribly lonely living alone?

Maybe! But you don't have to spend all your time alone - you can invite people over, visit friends, or go out and do something. If you feel lonely, come talk to us and we can inspire some things that might help!

    Who knows?

You, six months from now!

swedishbadgergirl  ·  577 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Important point, I did IB, but I didn't finish it. So at that point I couldn't handle that workload. But I'm hoping I can now, with less tears.(But to be honest I think the hardest part about IB wasn't the workload but the culture where being stressed out of your mind is a virtue.)

I really hope I'll be able to enjoy this, and it feeling like a fun thing rather then a terrible thing to power through.

But it'll be fine. I think. It's just all a bit scary.

kingmudsy  ·  577 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    ...the culture where being stressed out of your mind is a virtue.

It's wild to me that this is so universal across national borders. A friend of mine did IB in Mumbai, I did it in Nebraska, and you did it in Sweden, and we all complain about the stress culture. I promise that my first year of college was much easier than IB, and by the time it ramped up I was prepared for it

And it's okay to be scared! Just try to focus on your own growth and well-being, I have no doubts you're going to kill it :)