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Odder  ·  212 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Ridiculous Fantasy of a ‘No Drama’ Relationship

I think this article makes for a fantastic performance piece - the author is someone who is clearly over-dramatic and probably knows it deep down, and they're expressing their frustrations about how many people out there signal that they find the author undesirable in their dating profiles.

There's plenty of other articles and internet rants out there of a similar form - e.g. "short man complains about how many women list height requirements in their profiles" but since we generally consider being not tall significantly more socially acceptable and less changeable than being dramatic, the short men can be upfront about how unfair it is that they're being discriminated against for something beyond their control. On the other hand, the author of this article needs to play at a complicated jugglig act - they need to communicate idea that these people who don't want "drama" are stupid and wrong for their relationship preferences - while also simultaneously not admitting that they are an over-dramatic person and therefore not needing to confront the fact that maybe there is something they need to change about themselves. But of course, the article itself is a subconscious admission of guilt, because otherwise no one would have written it - even if it remains factually correct in its entirety.

So, if it's a satire I think brilliant and kinda funny. Otherwise yeah it's just annoying.