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kleinbl00  ·  151 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: September 19, 2018

    It seems as though we have to create our own meaningful events and ceremonies, cut and paste traditions like arts and crafts.

The trick is in getting everyone else to agree to the meaning of your own events and ceremonies. This is the fundamental value of traditions: they are cultural shorthand that allows strangers and acquaintances to place you in the social order without endless quizzing and interrogation. That's why the 'thumpers lose their fucking minds over gay marriage - "adam and eve not adam and steve" is the panicked howl of custom being slain by progress.




OftenBen  ·  151 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    The trick is in getting everyone else to agree to the meaning of your own events and ceremonies.

Simple. Invite them. They show or don't.

kleinbl00  ·  151 days ago  ·  link  ·  

"Everyone else" includes tax officials, loan officers, guys in line at the movie theater, and anyone attempting to sell you a couch. Your friends and family know what the fuck is between you and your RPS. The guy at Best Buy trying to sell you a laptop has no fucking clue unless she's wearing a ring.

OftenBen  ·  151 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    The guy at Best Buy trying to sell you a laptop has no fucking clue unless she's wearing a ring.

Fixed, haha. Rose gold is pretty.

I get your point.