The pattern repeats again. A friend begins posting much more prolifically on social media. Lots of selfies. Doing things with the kid(s). Lunch/dinner with friends. Within a week, the absence of their Significant Other from the photos and posts becomes conspicuous. This continues for 2-3 months. Then the email comes... "Friends, it is with heavy hearts, and much love, that ______ and I have decided to end our marriage/relationship, and go our own ways..." The pattern has been 100% accurate so far. Just got the latest email yesterday. I'm counting the days before the next two announcements come out. They are both due. All of these splits are couples that have been married/together - usually with kids - for more than 10 years. ---- A friend had her baby yesterday at home, in a tub in the middle of her living room, with no pain killers, in about 5 hours. Another friend is due. And a lovely couple I know from the Burningman community just became grandparents. Life: It goes on.
The pattern is the same, do you think that the reasoning is the same or similar when these splits occur?The pattern has been 100% accurate so far.
Hmm. There has to be a reason leading into the first part of that pattern, right? This is interesting, because I see a lot of behavior in myself on a much shorter scale. But it's not elimination so much as inability to include from the get go.
Yeah, there is definitely other stuff going on ... ... the individual feeling like they aren't getting the appreciation/attention they deserve from their spouse, so they go fishing for compliments on social media... ... the individual feeling "trapped" in their relationship, so suddenly they are doing all kinds of Activities and Adventures (without their spouse)... ... the individual setting themselves up in people's minds as an individual and not part of a couple... Etc.
Yeah. My social circle spans multiple generations, and all found each other long after the normal friend-gathering-periods of high school and college. So there are people with 20 year marriages, 10 year poly relationships, dating, 2-year marriages, and couples with kids and no kids. It really is a cross-section. If you social circle was largely developed in the high school/college phase of life, I'd expect people to go through life changes and cycles at largely similar times. My friend group is from a more diverse age range, and background. So it is less expected to see these patterns form so rigidly.