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kantos  ·  813 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 16, 2018

School

Looking to Airbnb my last semester instead of subletting. Taking a martial arts course as a break to keep me in school over the summer while working part time. I get the impression adding another plate to spin would be nice. Give myself another week and we'll see.

Relationships

I've been substituting a lot of time reaching out to others with quailty time with the lady friend. Partly since my go-to's have not been available. Starting to reconnect with them now that they are available. Each I've spoken with have made it sound as though I should be advancing my relationship with her. Not something I haven't thought of. Just not something I've committed to despite getting concrete, positive feedback.





scissortail  ·  810 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Which martial art are you studying? Is it your first one?

kantos  ·  809 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Judo! And yes, this is my first one.

scissortail  ·  809 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Excellent! I train very irregularly in Judo, and I rate it pretty highly. Sanshou is my primary art, but Judo's comprehensive clinch throws (in the gi, at least) are unparalleled in other disciplines. Best of luck, and happy training!

kantos  ·  798 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks! You as well. I'm a fan of shifting center of mass over brute force, so I was looking forward to it.

ButterflyEffect  ·  813 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I've been substituting a lot of time reaching out to others with quailty time with the lady friend. Partly since my go-to's have not been available. Starting to reconnect with them now that they are available. Each I've spoken with have made it sound as though I should be advancing my relationship with her. Not something I haven't thought of. Just not something I've committed to despite getting concrete, positive feedback.

eeeeeeeyyyyyy. We're on the same boat with this one, except I haven't had people saying "spend more time together". Just her. And it's hard because I have a lot of opportunities for various experiences this year, and keep saying yes as more come up. Which then leads to (-->) wondering if you should even be in a relationship at the current moment if that's where your priorities are. And wondering if you even want to shift priorities right now.

kantos  ·  811 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So she's the one advocating for spending more time together, and you're caught wondering whether you'll have time for her and said opportunities - or whether its worth re-evaluating your time with her? Makes me wonder what need isn't getting met on both ends. Maybe spending more time is the band-aid for something else she wants and vice versa? Whereas the wound could require less a time investment for treatment - since that seems to be the issue at hand.

Thanks for the reminder with the last sentence. Now that I'm at the point where intimacy is an option, I've been questioning why I'm here in the first place, LOL.